You might like to know what I mean when I use the above terms. Well, just as I cherish the biodiversity of nature, so I also cherish the “biodiversity” of human sexual desire and expression, as enacted between consenting adults. (I don’t work with minors, which is why I don’t mention them.)
I’m using “polyam” as shorthand for “polyamory” instead of “poly” as it’s come to my attention that Polynesian people, who have used “poly” for decades in their cultural context, would prefer non-Polynesian polyamorists to adjust their terminology. Done!
In the context of my sexology practice, being polyam friendly means that I welcome people who are in non-monogamist relationships, and am prepared to address the resulting complexities and issues in a context beyond “couples.”
In this instance, I am using “queer” as an umbrella term for people who identify as being and living somewhere in the “LGBTQIA+” categories. (Not everyone may do the same.) I am committed to honoring all aspects of human sexual and gender diversity, including those aspects which are other than cisgendered and heteronormative. (This includes forms of asexuality, objectum sexuality, etc.)
My own queerness is somewhat esoteric.
I have been listed in the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom’s “Kink-Aware Professional” listing for several years.
This means diversity that is physical, mental, cultural, ethnic, and so forth. I believe we all deserve to enjoy our birthright of chosen enjoyments and self-agency, whether expressed in explicitly “sexual” forms or not. I strive for cultural competancy but know that there is always room for improvement. I know my own disability does not grant automatic knowledge of other people’s struggles.
Nonjudgmental and Pleasure Positive
In addition, my work with you is nonjudgmental and pleasure-positive. I am here to support you in your individual pursuits of pleasure and self-empowerment.
I strive to understand the impacts of larger societal pressures and traumas engendered by systemic racism and personal bigotry, sexism and misogyny, transphobia, homophobia, classism, ableism, and so forth. Again, I know there is always room for improvement. However, you can speak to me frankly without worrying that I am too “fragile” to listen and understand.
In other words, I’ll do my best for you within the parameters of my training and ethics.