Here’s How I Help Sex Problems

Sex Counseling and Coaching, Hypnosis, and “Adult Sex Ed”

If you have some sexual or gender-related concerns, just talking with a sex-positive, accepting, non-judgmental counselor can certainly help. But I also find that hypnosis and self-hypnosis are also extremely helpful in addressing client concerns.

Hypnosis enhances the counseling process by getting to the root cause of many problems, and then delivering positive suggestions to transform the focus, overcome negative self-talk, sexual inhibitions, worry, and more.

Using counseling/counseling, hypnosis, and “adult sex ed,” I help with the following sexual, gender, and relationship concerns by:

• Relaxing the worry that often accompanies non-medical “sexual dysfunctions” and using hypnosis to help improve or manage erectile issues and more;
• Offering suggestions to manage and resolve orgasm difficulties;
• Helping to create strategies to cope with desire discrepancies in relationship(s);
• Offering suggestions to improve body image and sexual self-image;
• Helping to create strategies for creating more intimacy, variety, and an enriched sexual life;
• Addressing consent issues and how to negotiate boundaries;
• Supporting people who are transgender, non-binary, and otherwise gender diverse;
• Helping people manage pelvic pain;
• Helping people manage some of the symptoms and relationship complications resulting from Pelvic Organ Prolapse;
• Teaching self-hypnosis and/or Autogenic Training to each client;
• Offering private classes and public workshops;
• And more.

I combine a variety of methods to help each client to feel greater sexual self-esteem and confidence through an awareness and appreciation of their own unique erotic natures.

Example of a Six Week Program

Below is a basic plan for six sessions, though there will be some individual variations depending on circumstances. I use a range of hypnosis techiques and mind-body skills.

Disclaimer: Sexuality counseling and sex and relationship coaching are client-centered, short-term services focused on specific issues. These services are designed to be supportive of overall client wellness and to be complementary and/or additionally helpful to any medical and mental health care. These services do not take the place of medical care and/or therapy from licensed providers. These services do not diagnose or treat medical or mental health conditions. Please consult your medical providers and/or therapists for your medical and mental health needs.

Research Supports Uses of Hypnosis  for Sexual Concerns

You might wonder about research into the uses of hypnosis for sexual concerns. Many peer-reviewed studies demonstrate the efficacy of hypnosis as a complementary modality, used alone or in conjunction with therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or some medical therapies.

Since 2008 I have specialized in using hypnosis for sexual concerns. I call this “Sexological Hypnosis.” I also teach other sexuality and psychology professionals to use Sexological Hypnosis through a professional, 150-hour training. I have collected dozens of studies demonstrating the efficacy of hypnosis for many kinds of sexual concerns.

The table below gives a few general examples of how I use hypnosis and related mind/body techniques in combination with sexuality counseling and “adult sex ed.”

Hypnosis Can Help With All Kinds of Sexual Problems

Hypnosis does not take the place of medical or mental health care delivered by licensed professionals, but it can complement and assist many aspects of such care. It can also assist you in establishing and maintaining healthy habit

Modalities and Sexual Concerns

General Concerns	Examples of Positive Hypnotic Suggestions/Methods	Mind/Body Techniques	Counseling, Coaching, Sex Ed
Orgasm (Partner or solo)	•Sexual self-esteem. •Capacity building. •Fantasy use.	•Hypnotic Relaxation (HR). •Autogenic Training. •Tantric Breath. •Self-hypnosis. •EFT	•Self-pleasuring. •Partner techniques. •Sexual enrichment. •Anatomy.
Erection and Ejaculation Variability	•Sexual self-esteem. •Capacity building. •Fantasy use. •Desensitization of triggering incidents.	•HR. •Autogenic Training. •Tantric breath. •Self-hypnosis. •EFT	•Self-pleasuring. •Partner techniques. •Sexual enrichment. •Sensate Focus.
Painful Sex	Sexual self-esteem. Capacity Building.	•HR. •Autogenic Training. •Self-hypnosis. •Pain mgmt.	•Referral to MD and Pelvic Floor Therapists. •”Outercourse” Partner techniques. •Sexual enrichment.
Partner Sex	•Sexual self-esteem. •Capacity building. •Fantasy use.	•HR. •Autogenic Training. •Self-hypnosis.	•Partner techniques. •Sexual enrichment. • Support for diverse relationships.
Mobility: Aging, Ilness, Disabilities	•Sexual self-esteem. •Capacity building. •Fantasy use.	•HR. •Autogenic Training. •Self-hypnosis. •Pain mgmt.	•Self-pleasuring. •Partner techniques. •”Outercourse partner techniques. •Sexual enrichment.
Guilt and Shame (Body image, trauma, etc.)	•Sexual self-esteem. •Capacity building. •Desensitization of triggering incidents. •Body acceptance. •Health suggestions.	•HR. •Autogenic Training. •Self-hypnosis. •EFT	•Body acceptance. •Possible referral to licensed therapist.
Gender Concerns	•Self-esteem and ego strengthening. •Stress reduction. •Specific support for trans and non-binary people.	•HR. •Autogenic Training. •Self-hypnosis. •EFT.	•Supportive counseling.