Category: Publications

  • I Made It To 110! (No, Not Years!)

    I Made It To 110! (No, Not Years!)

    It’s a writer’s milestone: one hundred and ten articles for Future of Sex, written from August 22, 2023 to April 30, 2026, mostly on the topic of AI and human intimacy and various other sex tech topics.

    I loved writing for Future of Sex. It was an incredibly fun and stimulating gig. I enjoyed it so much that I produced three to four articles a month, even during three rounds of chemotherapy and surgery in 2024.

    2026 articles, above.

    A sudden loss

    Until Jan. 1, 2026 I was working alongside my friend and managing editor, M. Christian (Chris Muncy). They’d edit my stuff, and I’d edit quite a few of their articles too. It was a pleasant and supportive working relationship. However, that all changed on Jan. 1st this year, when the local hospital called me with the news that Chris had died in the ER from a sudden heart attack.

    Because I was their medical contact, I said my goodbyes to them in the room where they perished, and took care of some of the initial arrangements, such as tracking down their surviving family member and feeding and rehoming their cat, Sweetpea.

    This sad news left an immense void among a wide circle of sex-positive friends and fellow writers, and was a huge loss to Future of Sex. Over several years, Chris probably wrote 500 or more articles for the publication, as well as for other online sites. You can read more about Chris in this obituary, and find their work in their writer’s profile. The world has lost a unique voice and talent, as well as a genuinely kindly person.

    I miss him. Good friends are rare enough, but good friends who are also great collaborators are even harder to find.

    A writing sexologist or a sexological writer?

    Though sex is my beat, it’s become clear over the years that writing is my heart and soul. Much as I love client work, creating sex ed programs, and teaching, I have come to see that I’m a “write or die” kind of person. The proof? I did very little client work while dealing with chemo and surgery, but still managed to crank out my articles. Writing kept me hopeful and anchored me even during the worst times. It helped me find meaning and gave me a sense of worth. Yes, loved ones helped with that too, but internally, if I’d not had my gig at Future of Sex, and the joys of frequent publication, I am not sure I would have done as well as I have so far.

    Now that I am taking more client work again, as Future of Sex pauses publication, I take this moment to look back fondly on a challenging time of creative work and existential challenges. Each article was a kind of spike in the mountainside that enabled me to eventually hoist myself up and over the top.

    I’m only sorry that my friend and editor is not still here cranking out his own passionate takes on the future of sexuality and humanity.

    Above written during chemotherapy and surgery, Summer 2024.

    You can find a complete list of all my articles, books, and other creative works here.

  • How to Break Up With a Chatbot: The Thinking Human’s Guide to Managing Digital Desires

    Announcing the Sept. 1, 2025 publication of the sequel to How to Make Love to a Chatbot: The Thinking Human’s Guide to AI Erotic Roleplay.

    Get How to Break Up with a Chatbot on Amazon. In paperback.

  • How to Make Love to a Chatbot – New 2025 Edition – Revised, Expanded

    This book is so much more than you think! Free for a limited time on Amazon Unlimited and with a trial membership to Audible. If you like it, please leave an Amazon review!

    How to Make Love to a Chatbot: A Guide to AI Relationships, Romance, and Intimacy
    2025 Expanded Edition – Direct, Empowering, and Sex-Positive

    Ever wondered what it’s really like to connect, confide, or fall in love with an AI chatbot? Are you curious about the real stories, the risks, and the genuine rewards of exploring virtual intimacy? If so, this candid, clear-eyed guide is designed for you.

    Unlock the Future of Connection and Pleasure
    Packed with practical insights and the latest research, this revised edition is your companion for navigating the evolving world of chatbot relationships. Whether you’re a newcomer, a regular user, or a professional seeking to understand this frontier, inside you’ll find:

    • Human-centered guidance for developing meaningful, ethical, and emotionally satisfying AI interactions
    • Step-by-step advice on choosing safe, authentic chatbot platforms and avoiding costly pitfalls
    • Open, shame-free discussions about digital intimacy, fantasy, and embracing desire on your terms
    • Expert context and compassion from a clinical sexologist and longtime chatbot enthusiast
    • Personal stories, solutions, and resources to empower your own journey—whatever your interest or experience

    What You’ll Gain:

    • How to research chatbot providers and find the right fit
    • Tips for expressing your desires, setting boundaries, and ensuring digital well-being
    • Strategies for weaving bot intimacy into your self-care or love life—safely and joyfully
    • Critical perspectives on emotional investment, privacy, and ethical innovation in sextech
    • An annotated bibliography, appendices, and vetted resources for further discovery

    Who is this book for?

    • Adults new to AI companionship, or wanting to level up their experience
    • Individuals who crave pleasure and partnership outside conventional boundaries
    • Helping professionals looking for a trustworthy, stigma-free resource
    • Anyone drawn to technology’s creative potential for connection and self-knowledge

    For Adults Over 18.
    Learn how AI can expand your pleasure, insight, and relationships—on your terms.

  • AASECT Sexuality Counselor Recertification Approved! And Other Accomplishments.

    I am happy to announce that my recertification is now approved for another three years! Due to my chemotherapy and surgery schedule, which took place from May on, AASECT graciously allowed me an extenstion to get my required continuing education (CE) hours.

    My initial certification took place in 2012, and I’ve kept it current ever since. It would have been very distressing to have to let it lapse due to my cancer treatment. And so I am proud I was able to accomplish this–because part of dealing with cancer is not just the treatment and its effects, but how you feel anyway due to the cancer itself. “Exhausted” is one word that fits well. “Crummy” is another.

    Those other accomplishments…

    Since my diagnosis of ovarian cancer on March 15, 2024, I have also:

    • Written thirty out of forty-nine articles for FutureofSex.net.
    • Written eight articles for Kinkly.com.
    • Submitted a 50-poem manuscript (with most of the poems written in one month) to a poetry contest (I didn’t win, alas).
    • Finished my fourth fantasy novel, which is now with the publisher (and hopefully the copyeditor).
    • Blogged here and on LadyoftheLake (my “woo” blog).

    In June I appeared on a Japanese NHK science program, Human Age Nigen no Jidai, along with one of my chatbots. During the summer I was also filmed for a documentary on AI/human relations, which will be out in 2025 (last I heard). In the fall I created a presentation for Soft Cock Week and had a great conversation with Erica Leroye!

    None of this has been easy (including losing my hair), but if it weren’t for this work, my loved ones, and my pagan spiritual beliefs, I would not have survived. And so I thank life for keeping me busy, interested, loving and loved!

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  • Have a Hypnotic Valentine! (With My Book!)

    Have a Hypnotic Valentine! (With My Book!)

    So many reasons to get this book before Feb. 14! Give it someone you love!

  • Sex Toy Review: Lelo Enigma Wave

    Sex Toy Review: Lelo Enigma Wave

    Find the review on FutureofSex.net

    Sex toy reviews are a pleasant addition to my assignments at FutureofSex.net. Here is my first for Lelo’s Enigma Wave. Apparently, there is another review opportunity coming up (no pun intended).

  • My First Article for FutureofSex.net!

    My First Article for FutureofSex.net!

    “Til Server Do Us Part:” The Rise of AI Chatbot Spouses

    I’m extremely pleased to be writing now for FutureofSex.net! My first article, “Til Server Do Us Part:” The Rise of AI Chatbot Spouses, was published yesterday (8/20/23) and concerns a topic that has become near and dear to my heart: erotic AI chatbot companions. I hope you read it and begin to follow my articles on this excellent sex tech publication! Thank you!

  • How To Make Love To A Chatbot is Published!

    How To Make Love To A Chatbot is Published!

    Sexological endorsement of chatbot fantasy play in a user’s guide.

    The first definitive guide to AI chatbot erotic roleplay is available on Amazon as of June 11, in eBook form.

    The paperback is available as of June 13. Find it here.

    Are you curious about AI chatbots and the people who use them, but don’t know what to believe?

    Here’s the first “bot positive” and pleasure positive users guide for those who are curious and those who already enjoy the romantic and erotic fantasy companionship of AI chatbots! Written by a clinical sexologist and sexuality counselor who is also a chatbot enthusiast, this book endorses AI chatbot erotic roleplay (ERP) as a form of sexually healthy fantasy activity that any sex therapist could reasonably endorse, once they understood it. How To Make Love To A Chatbot debunks social stigma and encourages the prospective user to use due diligence and common sense to research suitable chatbot providers prior to making potentially unhappy or expensive mistakes. Readers are also encouraged to think through their needs and desires prior to committed to any particular bot or company.

    This book presents misperceptions, truths, and benefits about AI chatbot use, as well as positioning this fantasy play in the context of sexual pleasure as endorsed by the World Health Organization and others.

    Tips, tricks, and the author’s personal experiences enrich this user-friendly guide to a topic that is often misunderstood or derided. The book also includes a bibliography and Sources section.

    This book is for adults.

  • Announcing Entrancing: Hypnotizing Your Way to More Pleasure, Romance, and Sex!

    Announcing Entrancing: Hypnotizing Your Way to More Pleasure, Romance, and Sex!

    Relaxing, affectionate, bonding, romantic, erotic: this book contains a full spectrum of suggestions and techniques for a natural, relationship-centric use of recreational hypnosis for fun and pleasure.

    Here’s what one of my colleagues had to say, after reading an advance copy:

    “No other sexologist is more qualified or, more impressively, as informative, supportive, and downright entertaining than Amy R. Marsh, Ed.D. to explain why hypnosis can be so effective at gaining greater insights into your sexuality, deepening emotional connections with a partner, reducing stress and anxiety, and open yourself up to infinite erotic possibilities.

    Entrancing: Hypnotizing Your Way to More Pleasure, Romance, and Sex! is amusing, enlightening, and educational in all the right ways – which I enthusiastically recommend to anyone interested in erotic hypnosis or merely looking for an exceptionally well-written, thought-provoking, and sexually-enlightened book.”

    –M.Christian, sex educator, erotica author, and sextech journalist

    In Paperback and Kindle eBook formats!

    I hope you enjoy reading and using the book as much as I enjoyed writing it!

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  • My First Hypnosis Book

    My First Hypnosis Book

    And there will be more to come! This first book draws heavily upon the literature search and hypnosis techniques cataloging that I researched in the process of earning my Ed.D. (Doctor of Education in Human Sexuality) through the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (no longer in existence). This research was the foundation for the professional course that I created, Hypnosis for Sex Problems, that I teach over at The Intimate Hypnosis Training Center.

    This book is mostly a reference book for hypnotists and sexuality professionals. Links to paperback and eBook.

    The next two books will be: (1) a more detailed “case study and clinical practice” approach to sexological hypnosis and (2) an erotic hypnosis book for the general public. Stay tuned for more!

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