I see many people in my practice who want to have great sex with partners they don’t like. They may love them – a lot! – but they don’t like them. Hurt, resentment, lack of communication – many things prevent them from liking and enjoying their partners. So, it baffles me that they expect to have great sex with them. Some people do have tempestuous relationships where they argue all the time and then fuck and make up with gusto, however, such people have a pattern which works for them on some level, and so they aren’t the ones who typically arrive on my doorstep. Perhaps people in such relationships are less likely to seek counseling – I don’t know.

I made this video to convey a very simple message. And to commemorate the first day of 2012. Happy New Year!