It’s been a long time coming to this point, but here I am. I’ve never been thrilled about being “assigned female”–it never felt like a real fit–but I am of a generation that grew up with fewer options than there are now.

Gender non-binary with a dash of gender neutral, using the pronouns ze/zir, feels much more accurate. This is me on the inside, no matter what I look like on the outside.

If you find this confusing, here are a few good sources of information.

Update: My Nonbinary Coming Out Story posted on TDOV March 31, 2012.

Check out Understanding Non-Binary People: How to Be Respectful and Supportive from the National Center for Transgender Equality, (202) 642-4542,

1133 19th St NW
Suite 302
Washington D.C. 20036

Here’s a good article from TeenVogue. And here’s another.


The illustration above is from Expressing Your Gender as Non-Binary At Work, Monster. I don’t know the artist.

If you have questions, please ask me.